DRAWING WATER

Before I dive into today's article, I'm giving you a heads-up. 😂 I think the philosophy courses and articles I've been taking and reading lately have somewhat ingrained themselves in my system. I've become quite accustomed to deep contemplation about why things are the way they are and the truths behind them. Not to say that I'm a philosopher. 😂 I just find it fascinating, and I hope this message finds you well. Let's dive in.

I now understand that you can neither be solely a good nor a bad person. I'm not good nor bad; I'm human. I do mundane things that flow naturally from within, because I am human. "Human me does and feels human things."

I've come to realize that I control how I feel about the narrative that's passed around about me. Accepting my imperfections as innate qualities sets me apart, and that in itself feels like I've broken free from the shackles of vanity. As there is as much bad as there is good in me.

I see now that we occasionally demonstrate goodness because we fear judgment, hoping that others perceive us as kind and virtuous. However, we sometimes, do this to feel good about ourselves. To affirm that we are indeed good, we quantify all our good deeds to prove a point. Why? I've figured it is to showcase our benevolence, gain recognition, or validate our intentions.

It's selfish – I'd even say more selfish than actually being true to your own emotions.

Why make someone think you're someone you're not? Why make them paint you white when you are black? I ask myself these questions, maybe because I want to understand why we do things we don't want to. But really, this is me fully grasping the depth of our collective vanity and superficiality.

Emotion – the good kind – leaves you feeling high, like you're floating on cloud 9. It's not inherently bad, and it's not inherently good either. We are allowed to want to connect with things, no matter how fickle they might be, to feel good. You know?

What's dawned on me is the recognition that humans are incentive-driven beings. For instance, individuals often extend acts of kindness with the underlying belief that these gestures will be repaid in kind, either directly or for future generations. This exemplifies how we blend acts of kindness with our self-interest, forming a complex pattern that defines our motivations and actions.

Basically, our human journey is like a mix of different reasons that come together like a song from deep within us. Everything we do, whether to help others or for ourselves, adds to the tune that shapes our lives.

XOXO

It's Not You, It's Me🥺

Whew! It’s the tenth month of the year. Are you kidding me? Long time no blog post. Did you miss me? For me, I missed you all. I thought about so many things and so many ways I should write to you, but I always let something else get in the way. And now we are here, two months and days from my last blog post and me losing my blog streak. LOL, if that’s a thing. Anyways, there has been a lot and so much to catch up on, but to summarize it all, I'd say that this has been a really transformative year for me. A lot has changed, internally and externally. I must say that it has been so scary for me too. And with how everything has been coming at me, I like to look back when I get the chance to reflect.

Do you ever not like change? I mean, have you ever found yourself being so anxious and weary of what change could do and bring? Have you found comfort in your routine, not looking to upscale, but at the same time wishing to, but you would rather not because you are not sure you want or need the change? Well, this is not to say that I don’t like change, but I remember having a conversation about this particular concept with a work colleague of mine a few weeks ago. She asked why I'm still friends with certain people when I know they aren’t friends in the real sense. I made an unconscious response to that question with, “because I'm familiar with their attitude and I know what to expect and what not to.” And then she instantly psychoanalyzed me and told me she thinks I have a control problem. Then I thought about it really. Actually, I do have a problem. My need to control things just comes in the most unusual ways, just like I have written above. I remain in certain situations just because I don’t want to change things and I can control what it is I already know the likely outcome of. Of course, I do take risks, once in a while, but the chances of that happening between 0-5 are quite slim.

A lot has indeed changed, and a lot has changed me. Do I find them to be scary sometimes? 100%, but then again, such is life. The trick to it is to grab it by its horns and navigate it towards the best suitable path to tread on. And so this is plain Dee writing to you all after a long hiatus, telling you that change can be good when you let it. Fear is your biggest enemy, and like I always say, “you never really know what you are made of or can achieve if you never put yourself out there.” Be bold, and trust in your abilities.

By the way, I don’t think I've mentioned it on here that I recently published a poetry chapbook, and it is available in both ebook and paperback formats. To purchase a copy, click on the link in my widgets section which says, “I'm an author, buy my book.” My poetry chapbook gives a little insight into how much your girl has grown, and I'm so happy that I finally mustered up the courage to finish it and publish it. When you do read it, please leave a review; I love to receive feedback. I have another book which is a short story, and I'm sure you will get the whole idea of it once you click on the link you really need to.

Signing off, do not be sad, guys; this was just a quick pop in, as real life has me on a chokehold for now. I'm pretty sad that I haven’t been writing as much as I should be recently. However, I'm not totally off; I'll still write to you, but I write on various other mediums as well. Look me up on Instagram, X (Formely Twitter), Threads, LinkedIn, etc. Let us connect. I go by the name Agnes Dairo on most of these apps. I really do hope to see your connection requests. Do have a wonderful week ahead. And to the Nigerians reading this, I am wishing you a happy independence.

       XOXO 

UNPLUGGED

I was watching a Korean thriller a few days ago and in the movie, the guy had installed spyware into his victim's phone and was watching her every move through the spyware. He was literally spying on her, listening in on her conversations, watching her, had access to her social media etcetera. This guy had her in the palm of his hands just because he could get into her phone, and when I deeply think about it, it makes me want to toss my phone and never own one ever again.

Lmao, but that isn't possible. While I don't dispute that these tiny computers have somewhat become so important to us and are very essential in living, especially in the world of today, I've wondered if people can actually live without their phones for even a day or two without going completely nuts.

I say this because I remember a day when Instagram, Facebook, WhatsApp - the Meta world in general, had a problem and we couldn't access our social media for the entire day. Luckily for me, I was so busy offline, and after I came home that day, I wanted nothing more than to crawl into bed, eat my dinner, watch a movie, and maybe then drift off to sleep. Sleep I did not, as I settled into watching Squid games, which had 1-hour long episodes, and I couldn't stop myself from watching until the end. Totally engrossed in my series, I completely forgot about social media and the outside world in general. It was not until I thought to check my messages the next day that I started to realize what had gone down the other day. I came online to meet rants, lamentations, and I couldn’t relate because, matter of factly, I didn't see how a whole day without social media was such a bad thing.

Sometimes I spontaneously turn off my phone just to be disconnected from technology for the whole day. I want no contact with the outside world, and I want nobody contacting me as well. Although going off like that can cause people who care about me a lot to worry, and that is why I don't do it so much. But on a few days, I like to drift away from the world that is the internet into my own world, the world that people forget to live in.

I like to take long walks at night, with the cool breeze blowing, touching my skin and hair. I like to admire nature: the trees, flowers, sunsets, and animals. I like to gaze at the stars and wonder why the moon is so bright at night. I bask in the solitude that just living in the world allows me to enjoy the simple things that make Earth, Earth. I like to know people and not what they post on social media. I'd like to know them, really.

In essence, I think we've all become so accustomed to the world online that we forget about the real world—the world we live in and I think it leaves a gap in a person. I mean, when you find fulfillment only in the things the world online gives you and can't do the same offline, it leaves a type of void that you might never know how to crawl out from. So why not start small? Take a day or two off and see what happens.

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 XOXO 

"The Cycle of Stupidity: Why Some Youths Never Grow Out of It"

 As I was scrolling through my WhatsApp timeline, a particular phrase used in a caption by a friend caught my eye. It said: "Stupid youths grow up to be stupid adults."

In my own words, I would say that the term "stupid" in this particular context is not about IQ, but more about lacking common sense, critical thinking, and emotional intelligence — You know...those things that help us navigate life and make good decisions?

Now, let's address a few reasons behind why some youths might end up being "stupid" adults. The environment we grow up in plays a massive role in shaping us. If there is no support or encouragement to develop our critical thinking, education, and emotional intelligence, we're going to struggle as adults.

The choices we make as youths also carry serious consequences. For example, if you're into drugs at a very young age, it can mess up your brain development and make it harder to think straight when you're older. This means that drug abuse can impact the brain’s ability to function in the short term as well as prevent proper growth and development in the long term.

Furthermore, the company we keep can also influence us greatly. If we surround ourselves with people who aren't the sharpest tools in the shed, we're likely to adopt those same traits.

But let's not forget that not every "stupid" youth ends up being a "stupid" adult. Some can overcome their upbringing and make serious positive changes in their lives. However, realistically speaking, habits and behaviors are hard to break once they've taken hold.

I would say that "growth is intentional." A person can only change because they want to. 

Now, here's a mind-stimulating question: what happens when a person isn't aware that they are the problem? Do you throw it in their face with aggression and frustration or approach them with diplomacy, empathy, and kindness? Think on this and let me know in the comment section below.

Additionally, I think you should check out the blogs I love to read listed in the right column. They are worth the read, I assure you and are amazing writers.

XOXO 

PCOS: A cause of Infertility?

Are your periods regular? Have you been putting on a lot of weight lately?

Or do you just have excessive acne? Why am I asking these random questions? My guess is, you're confused. 

Ever heard the term, "PCOS?"

No? Yes? Maybe? Hahaha. PCOS is an acronym for Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. Sounds different, ugh? Bingo! I've captured your interest. 

Now that we've gotten here, I'm sure you want to know all about it and I'm happy to tell. Grins

What is PCOS?

Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) is a hormonal imbalance caused by the ovaries (the organ that produces and releases eggs) creating excess male hormones called Androgens. 

If you have PCOS, it simply means your ovaries produce unusually high levels of Androgens.

As a result of this, people diagnosed with PCOS often have irregular or missed periods, excess acne, unpredictable or no ovulation at all, etc, and this (anovulation) may cause small cysts (fluid-filled sacs) to develop on the ovaries.

Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome is quite a common condition and up to 15% of women of reproductive age have it.

What Causes PCOS?

ANDROGENS (MALE HORMONES)

I know I've already mentioned earlier that excess release of the male hormones (Androgens) is a major cause of PCOS. But how?

Experts have confirmed through several studies that high levels of androgen also called "Male hormones" prevent the ovaries from releasing eggs — that is the process known as Ovulation. Lack of ovulation leads to irregular menstrual cycles and it may also cause small fluid-filled sacs to develop in the ovaries. Furthermore, high androgen levels can also cause excess acne and hair growth in women.

INSULIN RESISTANCE (IR)

Another major factor that causes PCOS is Insulin resistance (“IR”). Insulin is the hormone that helps regulate the sugar level in the blood. With IR, the body cells don't respond normally to insulin and this causes the sugar levels in the blood to rise abnormally. Because glucose or sugar cannot be absorbed easily by the cells, glucose builds up in the blood. This could eventually lead to Type 2 Diabetes if not immediately treated.

Since the body no longer responds normally to insulin, it builds up in the body and triggers higher androgen levels which causes PCOS. 

Additionally, obesity (being overweight) can also increase insulin levels and make PCOS symptoms worse.

Lastly, people with PCOS tend to have chronic low-grade inflammation and it can be exacerbated by an unhealthy lifestyle that includes smoking, poor dietary, alcohol consumption, sedentary behaviour, stress and weight gain.

Symptoms Of PCOS

The most common symptoms of PCOS are:

• Irregular or missed periods.

• Abnormal hair growth. 

• Excess acne. 

• Obesity. 

• Infertility. 

• Loss of hair.

• Cysts. 

Etcetera. 

The major risks of PCOS are:

• Infertility or Subfertility.
• Diabetes.
• Lipid abnormalities.
• Cardiovascular risks.
• Obstructive sleep apnea.
• Endometrial cancer.

However, not all women diagnosed with PCOS will develop these conditions but they are possible long-term health risks associated with PCOS.

How is PCOS treated?

According to my research, PCOS can be treated based on symptoms, medical history and other health conditions. Treatment can include medication, lifestyle changes or a combination of both. Best consult a physician.

It is also important to note that a person can only be properly diagnosed with PCOS when a physician tests her physically through the use of an ultrasound scan, a pelvic exam, and blood tests. Also, a physician can ask about your medical history, family medical history and symptoms when making a diagnosis.

Is your father your father?

 Season greetings, my dear readers. Well I believe apologies are in order since it seems like I've been popping in and out of here as I please. For that, I tender my much overdue apology and will strive to do better in the future. 

Today, I'm quite curious about this particular subject, "paternity fraud." For a lot of you who know me, you would have realised that I've been over using twitter lately and its actually not my fault. I just find comfort in tweeting and retweeting my random thoughts. So I read, retweeted and liked a tweet on the subject I mentioned earlier and I'll be providing a screenshot below:

Other tweets I came across on other accounts were soliciting for strict punishment to be meted out to paternity fraud perpetrators. I'll provide pictures of the tweets below:

Now, building on the above; I dashed to Google to research on the topic, "Paternity Fraud" and shockingly I found out that Nigeria has the second highest rate of paternity fraud in the world after Jamaica. It is imperative to add that presently, there are no legal consequences for mothers who commit paternity fraud and therefore it is not punishable under the law. For those of us who may be lost, and as such still don't understand the subject on which this article has been written, it is vital that I define what paternity fraud means.

What is Paternity Fraud?

Paternity fraud, occurs when a man is incorrectly identified as the biological father of a child. The underlying assumption of "paternity fraud" is that the mother deliberately misidentified the biological father. Paternity fraud is related to the historical understanding of "adultery."

I am not here to judge, but I'm a firm believer of calling a spade, a spade. I really do not understand why a person you claim to "love" has to be at the receiving end of such level of wickedness. I for one have personally not witnessed such a scenario but I think I can imagine the heartbreak and depression it brings to its victim. It really is a problem and the question herein is why do women commit paternity fraud and should there be legal consequences provided for it? 

Ps: #isyourfatherreallyyourfather?

However, if you suspect that you are not the father of the child your spouse is carrying, here are a list of things I recommend you do based on my research:

1. Get an experienced lawyer.

2. Make sure you're not on the birth certificate. 

3. If the mother files and serves petition, request for a DNA test.

XOXO 

Wicca.

 Going back to this Wicca subject. I did some digging and found out that this religion was developed by a man named Gerald Brousseau Gardner. 

Now remember I said the reason why I believed that witches still exist is because of the whispers I hear about cults still existing till today? Well, I wasn't wrong. 

Apparently, Gerald was a retired civil servant who spent most of the duration of his career in Asia, where he learnt a lot of magical practices and he was even a fan of esoteric literature—(Intended for or likely to be understood by only a small number of people with a specialized knowledge or interest, or an enlightened inner circle) and read widely on it. 

He came back to Britain and became a member of the British occult society and later on went on to develop a new movement based on magical practices and worship of numerous deities which is known as Wicca today. After the abolishment of England's old witchcraft laws, he published Witchcraft Today in 1954 and founded his first coven. 

In time, word of this religion that seemed out of the ordinary got out and spread to the United States in the 1960s. 

It's also good to note that Wiccans refer to themselves as witches and as such gained a lot of backlash from people who associate their religion with satanism. As a result, there has been a lot of denial in the bid to sever any ties with devil worship. 

Some believe in a horned god and a triple goddess. Some believe in a nature goddess. Others are agonists or atheists. From this, it is clear that there is no central authority, and this religion has a lot of variations to it. It is the largest pagan worship of today with the estimate of about 1.5 million members. 

Now my question is what led to its acceptance?

For it is known that humans fear what they do not understand and can't control and will seek to destroy it before it gets a chance to grow. 

According to my research, in the United States, several legal decisions validated the status of Wicca. An example is the case of Dettmer V. Landon in 1986. 

The plaintiff, Herbert Daniel Dettmer, was a Virginia prisoner and a member of the School of Wicca. Dettmer desired access to ritual objects, including several varieties of knife, with which to practice Wiccan rituals. Knives, of course, are not available to prisoners. When the State would not provide him these ritual objects, he sued Robert Landon, the Director of the Virginia Department of Corrections in federal court to get access to objects he claimed were necessary for his religious practice. The United States District Court for the Eastern District of Virginia decided in Dettmer's favor, finding that Wicca was a religion, rejecting the argument put forward by the Department of Correction that it was merely a "conglomeration" of occult practices. 

Although it wasn't a full victory for Dettmer, it was the first time a court of law would recognise Wicca as a legitimate religion. 

Seems we've all gotten enlightened on this subject. It's safe to conclude that paganism itself isn't just in places like African or Asian countries, but actually exists in both European and American countries as well. Although, in my own view, it is a religion that will always be at the receiving end of criticism, however legal it becomes. Why? Like I said earlier, "people fear what they do not understand."

XOXO

BDD

Taking over from Tolu Ijaoba on the subject of body shaming. 

I believe that there is a need to shed some light on what exactly BDD entails.

So what is BDD?

BDD is an acronym for Body Dysmorphic Disorder. It is a mental health condition in which a person is unable to stop thinking about their perceived flaws or defects.

It makes one extremely anxious and ashamed of their appearance, which convinces them of the need to always look for ways to repair their perceived flaws; which in most cases could be plastic surgery and other cosmetic based operations.

Signs and symptoms of BDD

How do you know if you have BDD? The signs and symptoms may include:

1. Having a strong and passionate belief that something is wrong with how you look, i.e a general discontentment with your appearance.
2. When you believe others see you the way you see yourself and that is what causes them to mock and say a lot of negative things about you.
3. Attempting to find ways to correct a 'defect.'
4. Always needing reassurance on your appearance.
Etcetera.

This might not look like a big deal to you, but that's where you're wrong. BDD can cause some certain complications. I'll list a few. They are:

1. Low self-esteem.
2. Depression.
3. Social anxiety disorder.
4. Eating disorders.
5. Risk of disfigurement— due to various body alterations.
6. Drug Abuse.

Treatment

There is no specific treatment for this particular disorder,  but I think the best mode of treatment will be opting in for; Behavioural therapy, Psychotherapy and Cognitive behavioural therapy.

Thank you for sticking around till the end.                  

XOXO

Travails of a Gambler.

Gambling in recent times has taken a different tide and dimension. There used to be the days of Baba Ijebu and the likes. But now it's sports betting.                                                        

Betting companies have sprang up because there is a market for it—people thrusting their life savings, their salaries into sports betting in the name of fast money. It's a big risk. If you get lucky, you feel on top of the world. And if it goes bad, then there is trouble.                                             

Have we asked why more and more people are going into it? Having sports betting shops is now another thriving business. Or do we say there is no more dignity in labor?

                                                          

We live in the I-am-on-the-fast lane generation, so it's no surprise to see incidents like this happen. Betting companies are very smart to see that there is a growing populace of people who are into sports betting.  Now you get to see themes like "Reward for Passion". 

Let us ask ourselves: has gambling become a passion? It is high time we realized that the disadvantages outweigh the advantages. Sometimes, it could be your lucky day. And that's just once in a blue moon.                                                              

We also need to look at why it's becoming a normalcy. Is it the high poverty rate? Is it because it's seen as a faster way of income or is it truly a passion? We'll find our answers in due time. But in the meantime if you can't stop sports betting, stake responsibly.

Are witches real?

 Ever wondered what happened to witchcraft in early modern Europe and America? Yes, we know they probably burnt them all to the stake as shown in the movies and documentaries. But are we really sure that they are all gone? 

It often boggles the mind—so many generations of witches, long gone, long forgotten. A lot of people don't concern themselves with this piece of history. But as someone who loves to watch a lot of fantasy shows, it has always been something of interest to me. 

According to research, the last time a witch even existed is dated back to the 18th century. I wouldn't say they successfully executed them all. And so, if we still have witches, that means they've been low-key for about three centuries. 

Why do I think so? We hear whispers about several ancient cults still being run till today. I won't say they're being run necessarily by a 'witch', but anyone dealing with the occult is hypothetically dealing with supernatural powers.

 

Witches were not always feared back then. I'd say they even ran things. People came to heal, to call on spirits to help them, etcetera. If it was once this way, then what changed? You're probably wondering. I believe they were thought to be in cohorts with the devil and would only want to harm and do evil. Hence the hatred and the need to purge the world of their likes. 

Now here is another string line of questions: Were they actually witches? Did those things laid down in history books about them actually happen? Or was it the makings of a crazy man? When I look at popular stories, like the Salem witches and witches from Elizabethan times, I begin to ask these questions. 

I also discovered something. Are you aware that there is a contemporary pagan religion? Wicca is the name of it. It is a group of westerners who engage in nature worship and witchcraft and consider themselves to be followers of a pre-Christian religion with roots in northern and western Europe. It's spread widely and is even now being practiced in the US. 

Interesting, isn't it? 

This all the more fuels my growing curiosity of this world in particular. 

They are called Wiccans, and they possess their own principles even if their religion is out of the ordinary (what we are used to seeing). They believe in causing no harm as their ethical code goes like this: “If it harms none, do what you will.” Contrary to what you might think, Wicca is a large community filled with members and is an accepted religion. 

I'm going to go ahead and ask: why is witchcraft an acceptable religion now and wasn't in the 14th century? I don't think I've gotten a logical explanation yet.

I'll leave you with this, for now.

XOXO 

Virginity: A myth?

 My topic for discussion today might seem a bit controversial, but I had to. When I say 'I had to' I mean its 2022 and a lot of people are still holding on to archaic beliefs on what virginity entails. 

Who is a Virgin?

A person who has never had sexual intercourse, or sometimes, one who has never engaged in any sexual activity at all. 

Having defined that, let me apologise in advance.

I'm sorry to burst your bubble if you're one of these guys that have strange beliefs about virginity and I'll be taking you on a precise and comprehensive enlightening journey by listing five top myths about virginity. Ready, set, action! 

1. The hymen doesn't indicate virginity.

Oops! Shocker right? Well I was surprised when I found out too. Now for those of us who may not know what it means — The hymen is just a thin membrane of tissue that partially covers or in rare cases totally covers the opening of the vagina and the whole purpose of it is to keep bacteria out of the vagina (evolutionary reason by the way), after that it serves no purpose. And so the belief that the hymen is a wall that indicates a virgin is false.

2. A broken hymen means you're not a virgin.

As stated in my earlier definition of who a virgin is, I'd like to say this belief is just foolhardy. Moving on from there, the hymen can stretch, but it can also break and tear, not just because of sexual activity but through using tampons, cycling, exercise at any age, etcetera. 

3. Hymens look the same.

NO! The hymen comes in different shapes. There's the: 

A. Imperforate hymen — which completely covers the opening to the vaginal, blocking menstrual blood and secretion from flowing out. Which is a rare condition. The standard treatment is to surgically cut away part of the hymen using a scalpel or laser. This procedure is called an hymenotomy.

B. Microperforate hymen — A condition in which the hymen has a very small opening. Menstrual blood and vaginal secretions can flow out of the vagina, but the patient may have difficulty or inability to use tampons or have vaginal intercourse.

C. Septate hymen — occurs when the hymen has a band of extra tissue in the middle that causes two small vaginal openings instead of one. 

D. Ciribiform hymen — A condition in which the hymen has several very small openings. Menstrual blood and vaginal secretions can flow out of the vagina, but the patient will be unable to use tampons or have vaginal intercourse. 

AND

Did you know that there are some women who aren't even born with a hymen? So what does it make them? Non-virgins from birth? 

In addition, we have the annular, dentate, fimbriated, posterior lunar, subseptate, bifenestrate, anterior lunar hymen. 

4. The virginity test.

This is the biggest scam ever.  A doctor can't tell if you're a virgin. And what is this thing I hear about the 'Two fingers test?' If you believe that, I'm sorry to burst your bubble again.  The test typically involves a check for the presence of an intact hymen, typically on the 'flawed assumption' that it can only be torn as a result of sexual intercourse. Now here is a stimulating question, if a girl isn't born with a hymen, how then do you determine if she is a virgin or not? Logically and scientifically speaking, you can not determine a woman's virginity by just looking at or feeling it. Virginity testing is unethical and has no clinical or scientific basis and also a violation of human rights. 

5. Bleeding and pain.

Another scam is the belief behind bleeding or hurting the first time you have sex. The hymen is very thin and delicate so it doesn't get a whole lot of blood supply. Even if your hymen gets torn the first time you have sex, you maybe get a drop of blood or two. 🤷‍♀️ 

Most of the bleeding actually comes from the vagina tissue which is very vascular, but it doesn't mean that you necessarily have to bleed the first time you have sex. Although, you can experience pain the first time you have sex, but most times that happens because you're anxious and tense around your vaginal region. Which is totally normal, because its your first time. 

Now that we know the myths about virginity, I'd like to state that part of the problem here is women do not know their own anatomy, and need to start enlightening themselves. It's also not too much if topics like this are added to the curriculum in schools to address it properly.  

                 XOXO   

Soures:

• Dr Fatima Daoud, MD (Obstetrician-Gynaecologist)
• Nationwide Childrens Org 

An Insight into the lives of Domestic workers: Introduction.

 Hired helps are humans.            

In a country ravaged by poverty and disease, people seek to find means to survive, and that includes being hired helps to rich and middle class people.  

                                 
Being a hired help is not the bone of contention here; fate has its way of playing with us sometimes. How then do we ease the burden on hired helps. It's simply by being kind. This is not saying you should condone all of their inappropriate behaviour.  
                                     
Most times, kids are especially used as hired helps. However, if you have the financial capability to send them to school, please do. Feed them, clothe them, correct with love.

Goodwill always prevails over evil a million times. Sow a seed of love today to your house help and remember hired helps are humans too.

Note: How has your week been? Great? I hope. I have amazing news to share with you all and you're going to love this. We have a new writer joining us on here. He is a student of political science at Adekunle Ajasin University. He'll be our writer on politics, sports and humanity.

This piece is courtesy of I_am_immaculayte.

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