Friday 21 October 2022

What is Love?

 Bonsoir comment-allez vous? J'espΓ¨re que tu vas bien. Hahaha, it's been a while since I published an article, and I apologise for the hiatus. For those who have missed me, I've missed you too.




The past three months have been hectic, and as a Law Student I'm always worried and thinking about how to assimilate and absorb all the information I need to know when it comes to my academics. In a way, it's been traumatic but also fun. Of course, you will understand the traumatic part, if you're a college student who cares about their grades as much as I do. And for the fun part, well, I've met a lot of wonderful and interesting people who have supported, inspired and looked out for me. I'm happy our paths crossed and thank you, for everything. ❤ 


Now my exams ended about a week ago and I'm at a loss, there's one project or the other that I'm yet to get into and I'm so worried about things I haven't even started. Classic me. Sighs... I'll take it one step at a time, I guess.




Anyways, let me not bore you with my personal problems and get to the main event. A few days ago, I was talking with my friend Gbenga, 
about the concept 'Love' and what led to our conversation was a twitter post he had seen on how a lot of people set over the top standards just because they claim to be looking for love. And then he went on to ask me to define the term 'Love.'


I think love has less to do with the words and more to do with how we treat the people we supposedly claim to love. Sure, who doesn't want to hear how they light up another's world, but I think my most prominent love language is when people show me just how much I mean to them. It doesn't have to be a big or extravagant show of affection, I can see them in the littlest of things. Love is a concept that people find easy to proclaim but do not know how to show. As the saying goes, "It's easier said than done."


Most people call me weird and most of the times I don't fight it because they are often right. If there's one thing that's distinct about me, it's the way I view the world and the people in it. Not a scholar, but I believe the world operates on different philosophies that are mostly unknown to man. How does this relate to our topic for discussion today?


Well, I believe Love, holds a different meaning in every single person's world. The way you give love and expect to be loved are things that can't be dictated or properly structured from the onset. Of course, setting a few requirements when searching for a love match is ideal. That just means you know what you're looking for, but aim for realistic things. Look for the things that are unique, suits you and only you, and not what the society has laid down as the ideal love match, in other words, 'the trend.'


As most things, especially trends, they 'go out of fashion.'



So how do you identify what it is you truly need in a love match? I'll give you a nudge in the right direction...

Dear reader, what is Love to you?

XOXO